New Years Resolutions for Beginners…

A new year brings with it a whole new plan, a new car smell if you will…

But-

Whenever I think of new car smell I get slightly nauseous… It’s something I remember from childhood, not from my parents because they never drove new cars, but from a trip to the beach in the back seat of a friends car. I think the feeling still sits right… a little nauseous but most new things feel that way I guess.

Many people consider themselves to be a “type” or a “category of person”. Not me. I’m more of a little of this and a little of that but maybe I glance at the recipe to make sure it all turns out decent. More of the type A mixed with the wanderers spirit. So what does that equal in car?

Does adventure+ control freak= Jeep person? No, I think I’m more of a purist and the wrangle seems too sporty for me… Well here it is, a complete re-evaluation of everything I thought I knew about myself because of a major life decision, that really isn’t that big a deal. Did that seem as anxious as I intended? It’s like every choice we make, big or small seems to close in on the person we are or are trying to be, but what if it’s just a car?

Here was my sentiment on the process. I’m not making the kind of money that requires status, nor do I have any based on letters following my last name. I don’t need a spaceship of technological features, but I don’t want a tin can. Why don’t they make Honda’s like they used to? I love Honda, or at least I did until mine started having trouble.

I’m not surprised that the car manufacturers are mimicking the American income brackets and social classes by making economy cars look like total shit, and expensive cars unattainable.

I digress.

It’s a big pain in the ass to decide what you want for the next 5 + Years, because that new car smell (if you like it), eventually goes away.

A car is not a home or an asset, but more of a liability, and a leaky piggy bank. I wish they made cars like the old days, like they made everything. Fixable and wholesome. Or at the very least, made well enough to WANT to fix and brag about. Cars have had a tough history, I mean it’s still relatively new and now we have 100% electronic cars!

Ultimately, this is a new purchase, a big change, and much like a new year, brings with it a set of rules.

I will not eat in the car.

I will get a car wash once a week.

Etc.

until you don’t do any of that…

So what’s the point in stressing about a new year or a big change if you end up doing what you’ve always done?

This year make the choice to stick to whatever it is you resolve to do. Be reasonable! You aren’t going to lose 100 lbs in a week! You are NOT going to make a major change, right away. The good news is, small incremental changes lead to big ones!

So if you are buying a new car or if you are just trying to stick to a budget. Be fair but be firm!

Make a choice to change something small, and start making it part of your daily routine, that way when you re-evaluate yourself in 50 weeks trying to decide if you are more of a “free spirit” or a “tight ass”, you will have a better understanding that you don’t NEED definition. You NEED to know what YOU NEED/ WANT, and that starts every day, not just the first 3 weeks of January!!

Good luck, and remember you can do anything, as long as you commit to doing it!

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Are you Batman?

What is it that creates a superhero? The obvious answer is saving a damsel in distress or helping save the world. I’d argue the hero is the person that shines through dispite the odds stacked against them.

I am biased by saying Batman is better than Superman, but that’s because my name is Robyn (cue corny laughter). Here’s my argument, Batman was a guy who had gadgets but he used them to defeat the bad guys. Not everyone is born with natural super hero powers, in fact most people have to try very hard to simply be regular. However, Iron man and Batman might not have super strength or the ability to fly, but they have something much more valuable. Hope, perseverance, and my favorite good morals.

When you have hope for a better situation, you have an idea of what that means. If you can create your destiny, then you have the same Batman power.

The secret of both Batman and Iron man are inadequate situations. For Iron man he was faced with standing up to his brilliant father feeling that he would never stack up, he pushed through the negativity, and BAM Iron man outfit with super power to boot. He had adversity, the man had a heart of some toxic chemical and lord knows his back probably took a beating from those long hours of encrypting code…

What’s the point? Heros are normal people who decided that this wasn’t good enough. Superman, had super powers, but not everyone wakes up as Clark Kent.

What perseverance did they have? You think Iron man or Batman ever had self doubts? Of course! They were normal people!!! They had a choice, suck it up and be better or be a bad guy. Obviously we saw what they chose.

Spider man was just kind of lucky, but he had to overcome a choice, it worked out for him. He could have easily let bullying get the best of him. You have to have power in yourself to rise up to the challenges that you face in this world. Persistence and being a good person makes a hero out of an ordinary human.

Batman is inside you, even if you weren’t born with billions of dollars, super strength or a cool car. You can be batman.

You decide what kind of hero you want to be.


“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams…” -David Thoreau, and I bet he had haters too!

So there’s this thing that happens to me when I decide to go after something. I do it, I go after it, and then I think, what if this person sees and thinks (insert negative thought). It’s this little voice in my head that says, these people know you are a faker, but ultimately it’s self doubt.

It’s sad but it’s true. I hope I’m not the only one who feels this way…but if I am here’s the long and short of it.

I’ve decided to face my fears. So far the progress is slow. I’m still moving forward in the direction of my dreams because lord knows you can’t please them all, but life is too short to worry about it!

So what if people see? Good! I hope they take it to mean that yes, I can! Some people are so quick to say “wow look at (person) doing that thing, can you believe that!?” Um, yes they are, and good for them, don’t be a hater! Honestly it’s easy to say we are avoiding the negativity, until it shows up uninvited and forces us to react!

So here’s how I came to this conclusion, over the last year I’ve been actively trying to find my “path”, and by actively I mean really, getting myself out there! I’m proud of everything I’ve done over the last 12 months and if it leads right to where I am now, I know that’s where I am supposed to be.

So many of my coworkers, relatives and friends are just unsettled in their lives. I have to admit, I am as well, in certain areas, but very fulfilled in others. This years experiences have been some purposeful and some as a result of other experiences. Overall I’ve grown. I am not the same as I was when I started my journey to my fullfillment. It might just be that I’m looking at things wrong…

What I have learned over the last 5ish years is that love is the most important part of life. No matter what is happening as long as you have love in your heart, you are doing pretty good. If you have a few good friends, or you have found the love of your life, or have kids, or loving parents, or your pet, love conquers all. Sounds like a croc but no one lays on their death bed thinking of all the money, acquisitions or stuff they could have had…

The universe works in mysterious ways, no matter your views on the world, spirituality or anything else you have to admit that experiences lend themselves to learning. The people who support us, the people we bring and keep in our lives and the people we remove are part of the journey. I’m looking forward to the remaining few weeks of 2017. It sure has been interesting.

What is so important as we move into the new year is to focus on what we want out of this life. Each choice we make and each goal we set, should help us to get closer to the legacy we want to leave. Maybe it’s not a legacy, maybe it’s just the satisfaction of knowing we made a difference in the world, or maybe it’s raising our kids to be better people than their predecessors. Whatever it means to you, make the decision to go forward in whatever direction is important to you.

Everyone has to overcome negativity. I say, you can do anything you put your mind to, and I hope for those of you reading, that you will find some reassurance in knowing that you aren’t the only one, who feels held back by imaginary boundaries.

Go forward into the new year, with confidence, or finish out this year strong.