…On how to make sense of your destiny…

As many millenials alike, I too was told I could be anything when I grew up. So broad right? I natrally believed that whatever I was destined to do would be waiting for me when I got there. WRONG!

So here in the middle of making a change and staying in my comfort zone I figured I’d share some healthy ideas about how to do this before you reach the ripe age of 28. Meaning, I should have been planning in my high school/ college years for what my path would be, but then the passion for the party was too great.

First, decide what you like to do, outside of the obvious vacations and other frivolous activities. If you haven’t spent enough time getting to know the things you love or even like doing. Stop and start  learning yourself. PSA: ladies don’t depend on your man, and gentlemen don’t expect your boys (or your girl) to be there when you’re 30 and living at home. Start learning what you are natrally inclined to, and what you are horrible at doing. Do it now! Go out into the World Wide Web and browse Myer Briggs personality test. That’s science. It will tell you 4 traits that will help you to define the basics. Once you know (from science) that you are more introverted than extroverted, then you know you probably don’t want to be a news anchor.

Rule out the obvious. You hate math, so don’t go into statistics. You hate animals, don’t volunteer at a vet.

Now for the hard part…what are you great at? If you are like me, you probably have a number of “talents” but nothing “outstanding”. I am great at doing a lot of different things. Being great at doing something doesn’t mean you are the best of anyone else. It means you have a passion for it. When you have a passion you can be great but you have to work hard. Decide if you are willing to put in the work.

So if you don’t know where you want to be in 5 years that’s okay, but you know you want to make a change. Start now. Learn yourself, and start working on it. Maybe it takes you a while or maybe you quit your job and open a yoga studio. Whatever you decide, If you are passionate and you work hard, it will work out. Hey worst case scenario, you fail, and go back to the drawing board, at least you know you tried. You can’t live life in a plastic bubble. It might be safe, but it will never be satisfying.

So take a risk, and grow, it hurts but in the end you will be more satisfied by planting the seed than by picking the flower.